14 In fact, the human body is not one single part but rather many parts mingled into one. 15 So if the foot were to say, “Since I’m not a hand, I’m not a part of the body,” it’s forgetting that it is still a vital part of the body. 16 And if the ear were to say, “Since I’m not an eye, I’m not really a part of the body,” it’s forgetting that it is still an important part of the body.
17 Think of it this way. If the whole body were just an eyeball, how could it hear sounds? And if the whole body were just an ear, how could it smell different fragrances? 18 But God has carefully designed each member and placed it in the body to function as he desires.
1 Corinthians 12:14-18, The Passion Translation


The Corinthians were a problematic bunch of believers because they focused on their differences and in doing so placed unity amongst them at stake. Some believers felt they didn’t belong because of the differences between them. The Apostle Paul, however, tells them that the reason they didn’t feel they belong is because they are not seeing themselves as God sees them.

By using a satirical illustration of various human body parts feeling they don’t belong, Paul reminded the believers that they had forgotten that it was God who brought them together in the first place. This means if we really want to fit it, we can. But more often than not, we act like the foot or the ear, thinking we are so different that there is no possibility of unity.

Sometimes people use this excuse of not fitting in to change church. They have the wrong idea of what a church ought to be. Such wrong idea will only lead to more disappointment and pain.

It is normal to feel you don’t fit in sometimes.

Hurts and misunderstandings can cloud your judgement about others. But you can learn from your brokenness to build better and stronger relationships. Most people in church are in the same vulnerable place as you. They want to love and be loved. Instead of waiting for someone else to initiate, it is best to take the first step and reach out.

Align yourself to what God is doing in your church and be a part of it — then you will truly value who God has made you to be and others whom God has placed in your life. It is the willingness to let others into our lives that will allow us to grow together into the full likeness of Jesus Himself.

© Copyright Richard Tan, 2019.
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